By Irina Skaya
Prior to diving into the Facebook and Twittersphere social media networks, marketers must have a strategy (goals) in the space as well as be prepared to communicate with, and listen to their fans or followers on a daily basis. The more I think about how to best describe social network monitoring and management, the more I think how similar social media communications etiquette is to dating etiquette. I recently stumbled upon, “Dating Etiquette and Rules to Follow” on Topdatingtips.com. Below is a list with top five dating rules that can be as easily applied to social media in order to win over the hearts of your customers.
- Dating should always be fun, and it’s as much your responsibility as it is your partner’s to ensure that it is. Just like dating, social media is about engaging potential consumers in conversations and building relationships with them. And of course, social media is a dialogue, not a monologue, so the brand must actively participate in the online conversation associated with it.
- Always show up for a date, unless you’ve given notice and let the other person know you have to cancel. Standing someone up is not acceptable. Often times, brands say, “It’s only one person who complained. If this becomes an issue where we receive numerous complaints, then we will address it. Otherwise, let’s just not ignite the fire.” I am not saying a brand must respond to all of the comments fans/followers post—some are just better left alone, especially if the person seems like the type to pick a fight. The best advice I can give is all brands must have an escalation policy in order to have set rules and guidelines about how to respond in various, “What if…” scenarios. Nonetheless, I strongly believe that each fan/follower is equally important, and the brand must pay attention to all of its fans.
- Always be on time, and never keep your date waiting. So now that you have an escalation policy and know when and how to respond, be sure that you post your comments in a timely manner. Whether the fan/follower has posted a question, a compliment or a complaint, the brand should respond as quickly as possible, almost instantaneously.
- Dress well. In this day and age, there is absolutely no excuse for looking shabby. Dress your page up; first impressions are everything. Customize the channel with a branded skin, logo, profile photo, etc. Put your brand “in clothing” that is unique to its character, meaning include interesting and engaging functionalities, such as games, coupons, photos, videos, etc.
- Be a good listener, and don’t talk your date to death. Don’t just broadcast promotions and self-served information about the brand. Listen to what your customers are interested in, learn more about them, and focus your conversations on their interests.
Follow these five tips to win over your date and your fans/followers!


